Frienimes aka a destruction of our society

Frienimes: adj. a word used to describe a set of people who act with congenial manners to your face, but in reality seek your destruction

The idea of "frienimes" has been around since the dawn of time. Cautioned of in the ancient religious texts, made comical through great literature, and now accepted? Where did we go wrong? How is it that such a generation of frienimies had crept into our midst?

When pondering this plunder I couldn't see a definite beginning until I analyzed its roots. In the case of all annoying childish behavior it started off with good intentions. It can be seen as a form of tolerance, even though you hate the person you're sweet to their face. The twist in the good nature comes when after you're nice in person you have no problem thinking the worst of them and, at every chance, spreading every bit of salacious gossip behind their back. Remember middle school? Yeah, it's like that except now grownups do it to. Lovely.

What it comes down to is that it's lying. And how do we remedy this? (because I do not advocate complaining about problems without some sort of attempted solution) The healing process is two-fold because we are dealing with two-faced people. First you need to remember that advice your parent/guardian taught you, 'if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.' Apply this to all interpersonal connections. When you see a person you don't like, and interaction is inevitable, think if a true and honest statement to say to them. "Nice.....shoes." or "I had a nightmare about zombies last night. I hate zombies." Anything, but don't lie. They probably already know you don't really care for them and will see you more as a fake person. Only Barbie and Dolly Parton revel in being fake.

The second half comes from Eleanor Roosevelt: "Intelligent people talk about ideas, mediocre people talk about events, dumb people talk about people." Thank you Eleanor.

I think the constant need to stain others comes from deep self loathing. Um, get over yourself. And find a new topic to talk about beside your frienimes. Hey, if my 10 yr old cousin can understand this and find something better to converse about, than I have faith that you can as well. Set the example and be the norm you want in others.

Ditch the frienimes. Who has time for them anyway?